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Thanks Solome Tibebu for highlighting Alisha Johnson's post and link to this important read from NPR's Kat McGowan - Caregiving can test you, body and soul. It can also unlock a new sense of self. The article speaks to the identity gap that prevents many #caregivers from seeking support — a key theme in 'caregiver identity theory' developed by Rhonda Montgomery and Karl Kosloski. The theory helps frame caregiving as a major life identity transition, much like marriage or parenthood — making it easier for caregivers to seek and accept help. The Rosalynn Carter Institute for Caregivers has championed the idea that recognizing the caregiving role is key to building resilience and preventing burnout, helping to popularize caregiver identity theory, ensuring more and more caregivers are recognizing themselves as such. Amanda Cruz shares her transformative journey as a #caregiver for her mother, who battled cancer and suffered a stroke. This profound experience reshaped Amanda's identity, highlighting the deep emotional and psychological shifts that caregiving can induce. And it gave her a name for the support she was providing - "caregiver," "care partner," or "advocate." Key Takeaways: 🧠 Identity Transformation: Caregiving can significantly alter one's sense of self, leading to profound personal growth and change. “Understanding caregiving as an identity transition can help people make sense of this phase of life — just like having a baby, getting married, or switching careers.” — Rhonda Montgomery, PHD, gerontologist, founder of TCARE, Inc. 👂 Enhanced Listening Skills: The role often necessitates becoming more attuned to the non-verbal needs and emotions of the care recipient. Caregivers often become hyper-attuned to subtle cues, especially when verbal communication fades. 💪 Emotional Resilience: Navigating the complexities of caregiving fosters increased patience, empathy, and resilience. "I must pull myself back to put her forward," Cruz said, describing how she surrendered her own needs to center her mother's care — a reflection of profound inner strength and sacrifice. 🤝 Support Systems: Recognizing and seeking support is crucial in managing the challenges and preventing burnout associated with caregiving. “The needs of caregivers are often invisible, and they’re not typically asked how they’re doing.” Allison J. Applebaum, Ph.D., FAPOS. Applebaum emphasizes how caregivers are frequently overlooked in clinical settings, reinforcing the need for emotional and psychological support structures. The stories shared underscore the importance of acknowledging and embracing the changes that come with caregiving, and the value of support systems like CaringBridge in this journey. For more insights, read the full article below.